'Steps to Recovery', are some things I still use during those challenging days or in a triggered situation. Some who go through harm will recover right away and not every person is effected by PTSD, Depression, or other ongoing emotional or life challenges. What I've come to understand is that it is as individual as the actual attack or ongoing abusive harm. We all have different tolerance levels and are affected by different challenges. However, you will find that survivors of any type of ongoing extreme harm have struggled beyond measure just to stay alive, to actually feel there is something to live for and a reason to keep moving forward.
If you do not heal for yourself, consider the type of parent and the type of relationship you want to share with your family.
Unfortunately you now have to work at living a happy daily life. Often for abuse, violence, and terroristic types of crimes; the days are filled with challenging steps we conquer one at a time.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!! Believe in yourself and never give up, because sometimes hope just might be the only thing you have.
We want to help others understand the lifelong impacts & the ongoing struggles of trying to function when there are so many secondary triggers. Keep in mind that like a war veteran who has suffered life threatening battles during a one, two, or three day battle at a time; a survivor of ongoing daily personal attacks & control will usually suffer the emotional setbacks of Post Traumatic Stress, Depression, Anxiety, fears of what might happen next. The CDC supports the comparison of a child sexual abuse survivor, a trafficking survivor, can only be compared to that of a Holocaust Survivor or Prisoner of War. t You have been in a constant battle for your safety and that emotional reaction will not just suddenly go away.
It is important for you to wake every morning, put both feet on the ground, and tell yourself 'I CAN DO THIS, I MATTER, MY HAPPINESS MATTERS, AND I CAN BE HAPPY TODAY'. Hang onto the hope of being in a better place, even if you don't yet know where that place might be. Life brings many pitfalls and stumbling points. Survivors, even myself; we battle addictions of all types and even suffer with habitual behaviors. It's okay, this has been your coping strategy. You may commit acts of self harm, especially when all the acts come racing into our head. Try not to condemn yourself because of these battles, but rather understand why you use them. Remember that you did not ask to be attacked or harmed, it is a choice that someone else made to act against you. Hang in there, it is not easy, but believe in your ability to conquer the trauma and move forward each day. Reach for new and exciting life adventures and develop a new sense of self by first and foremost, pushing past your comfort zone one breath at a time. Don't be afraid to enjoy your life!!!
Six Daily Recovery & Rebuilding Tools; created by a survivor & geared to help survivors reclaim their incredible self!!
Steps to Recovery
Take a breath and a moment of quiet in a safe place. Your panic response has developed through different traumas. This influence was probably a repeated dominance and harm over a period of time. It will take time to develop the ability to feel safe, live in your freedom. Do not feel guilty about your pain. This is something another person CHOSE to inflict against you. It is not something you wanted to happen.
Build your SAFE CIRCLE, try the daily behavioral skills, and see just how strong, intelligent, capable, and wonderful you really are.
One breath at a time, one baby step at a time - you are in control and you will create your own dreams.
The one priority needed to begin any healing journey; FEELING SAFE.
1>>Evaluate SAFE SUPPORT CIRCLE- family, friends, therapist, neighbors - list should include emergency phone contact
2>>Evaluate immediate needs with contacts for assistance resources
(Shelter, Food, Job Skills, Education Assistance, Counseling, Transportation)
3>>Create Daily To-Do List- Phoning resources for immediate needs, cleaning house, grocery shopping, laundry - completing small simple tasks helps to rebuild self esteem, sense of accomplishment - learning responsible behavior skills provides self sustaining survival
4>>Create Positivity List- 'I CAN DO THIS', 'I AM SAFE', 'THE DANGER IS GONE NOW', 'I AM IN CHARGE'; ALWAYS CARRY IT WITH YOU, if panicked find privacy, read out loud, concentrate on breathing, slow pace- change negative to positive thoughts http://survivorsjustice.com/2014/02/26/triggers-what-are-they-and-how-do-we-work-through-them/
5>>Learn Emotional Wounds- understand you have anxiety, depression, perhaps Complex PTSD; research how these wounds will cause challenges in your activities today; going shopping, having lunch, being alone. Practice coping skills, monitor your actions/reactions changing behavioral responses & actions will prevent further victimization.
6>>Get Healthcare- A healthy body is a pathway to your recovery. It’s important to take care of any injuries or chronic health problems to allow the rest of your healing, and prevent any further victimization from another dominant person.
'Always believe anything is possible with you in the active equation'~~
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