NO MORE!! NO MORE - will we allow you to rape and murder our children!! NO MORE - will we ignore the blood curdling screams for mercy!! NO MORE - will we tolerate your need for dominace and control!! NO MORE - will we turn away from those who reach out for our protection!!
What is this new idea of GENERATION NO MORE??? Those who know me and have connected with me on our social sites have probably heard me talking about this for some time, especially on the previous radio shows. It is my belief that like other activities and traditions in life, we live what we know and what we were taught by our previous generations.
"Isn't this what many of our societal views and actions are based on: what was previously instituted by earlier generations?"
Our behaviors and the way we live is much of what is instilled in us during our forming years in childhood. We have those 'normal status' guides we live by and our previous generations drilled these ideas into our education systems and our ecomonic standings for centuries. Like many of the other social guidelines in mankind, unfortunately family dominance, violence, and yes, even abuse of our children has been passed down through the years.
On average there is at least one home in every single neighborhood that is dealing with some form of abuse, bullying, family violence. Every moment of every day our children are seeing visicious almost deadly violence and degradation of one of their parents. They are being subjected to take part in some of these actions by the dominating parent. There is a family member who is also making their lives a living hell by dominating the child's world as well. Children are in fear of going home and what their evening will entale. They burrow under their covers at night hoping that it will protect them in some way. Then they have to wake up to the monster who attacked them the night before, the one who rapes them, beats them, molests them and then blames them. Many of our homes have that less dominant parent who knows these attacks against the children exist but are unable to stand up and protect them. They may be financially or otherwise dependent on that abusing parent or partner and feel they have nowhere to turn for help, "How will they survive, feed and cloth their children, without the help of this person?" This is where society must step in to protect those who cannot protect or speak up for themselves!!! There is a rough estimate of between 40 to 60 Million survivors of child abuse in our country alone. This is like a large city of adults who have been molested, raped and beaten by those who should have protected them. Each of us know how dark and evil these acts can be expressed, like in the dark dungeons with prostitutes, but this is our children and it is above ground, within the homes meant to portect them. For many children this dark reality exists every day and the greatest majority of the abusers are those who are entrusted with their care. Those who are supposed to be encouraging them to grow and thrive in our society, instead murder their innocent souls and stain them to live in a storm of dysfunction for what can lasts throughout decades. As the survivors of these abuses well know, it can be a heavy burden of shame, blame and dark family secrets that trap our children in years of self-destruction. Some of these children are unfortunately taken over by the abuses against them, it becomes their 'normal' and as we well know; we all live in what is normal to us because this is our comfort zone and what we have been taught to accept.
This is a pattern that many women are trapped in, they live what they know. THESE WOMEN ARE EXACTLY LIKE ME. They see their only value in what has been forced on them to endure and how the world protrays all things in a women's sexuality. We live what we know and then we have children in this mess. I wanted to give my children the very best of everything, but as I went from one abuser to the next my children heard the degradation, they heard the screams for mercy and hid in closets, hiding in fear of being harmed by the man who was beating me while they tried to do homework, eat dinner, take their baths, or go to sleep. They were learning to live life in a threatened world and now carry the scars of this trauma in their lives.
It took a lot to break the cycle of what had been so normal to me. Thankfully I did finally get us out and we then built the family of love, support, hopes and dreams I had always wanted for them. It takes a lot of courage for anyone to break away from what we know as normal. We have to support the kids ourselves, seek out housing, provide the food, clothing and school expenses they need. It's not easy but it can be done. You are only as trapped as you believe yourself to be. You are only a captive if you give someone that power to be your captor. You are only valued in your sexuality if that is how you see your only value. It is possible to build up from where you are and escape the madness you are living in, but you are the ONLY person capable of making that choice and the ONLY person that can do the work to change what has been your normal.
The National Institute for Mental Health and the Center for Disease Control and Prevention both have documented studies on the lifelong impact of living through these types of traumas. Almost every survivor of these past generations has gone through years of self medicating with drugs and alcohol as we fought to bury the fear, sadness and anger over what happened. We have tried to bury it because our family and those close to us could never allow us to speak of the mass dysfunction and destruction of the children we were. We are left to carry the affect of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, bouts of Depression, severe Anxiety Disorder. Some have trauma that has caused BiPolar and other personality disorders. We have physical health problems with Fibromyaligia, Heart Disease, Lung Disease and some who have gone through repeated years of beatings suffer many physical problems sustained in these beatings. We as survivors of these years of abuse and family violence have a higher risk for going on early disability because we are so intensely damaged we cannot hold down steady, gainful employment or succeed in our professional careers. There is an estimated $124 BILLION dollars each year spent on the lifetime recovery of child abuse; another $8.4 BILLION a year spent on the damage of Relationship Violence.
We all have a choice in our society beginning right now, beginning right here; beginning with you! We can change what has been so commonly passed down through our generations, mankind's worst travesty; the crimes against our children and those we should love. We all have a choice in this darkness. We can see those who are being harmed and offer them help, refer them to places of safe shelter and encourage them to build their own safe world or we can all walk away and pretend none of it ever happened; allowing it to continue festering in the silence and disgust of these actions. These horrific acts of harming and destroying the lives of those we love is like mankind's personally created cancer eating away at our society. There is no magic cure for this particular cancer. The only way to change what has been so commonly accepted as normal within our homes is to teach your children about the power of their voice. Give to them the greatest safety tool they have and teach them that NO ONE should ever be able to hold them silent in the dark again.
Your children can grow with the loving nature you intend, they can become the next great doctor or president, their possibilities are truly endless. However, when they live in accepting the violence and abusive nature of mankind, their spirits are stripped of value and they will sink into the holie of silence and self-torture. You must make the choice to see the truth of what your child and those children around you are NOT telling you. They may not be able to understand what is happening to them and not be able to verbalize the actions because of the trauma attached. They will show the silent signs of a greater problem. Always remember there are threats from every predator and pedophile, some even threaten to the extent of murder. Watch how your children react and how they play with their dolls and stuffed animals. Watch and listen as they play with other children, interact at school and family functions. Look for the problems or changes in behavior and that which may play out in their school grades or maybe some outside functions they previously enjoyed being part of, but suddenly want to drop out and stop attending. There are many silent changes and behaviors your children will use to express what is happening, please do not ignore these!!! Remember that absolutely anyone can be a child molester, rapist, or even spousal abuser. Know that these monsters can never allow society, friends, neighbors to see who they really are and they will go to great lengths to hide themselves amongst us. This is why they use severe threats against their victims to keep these ugly secrets and family usually will not speak up because of the shame attached to the crimes. We must be a society of change. We know from our past generations these monsters sit at our dinner tables, they tuck the child in bed at night, they even comfort their boo-boos and then take away their innocence. Trust your gut when you suspect something. Know first off that young children, before they hit puberty, should not know any of these sexual acts. Children do not generally lie about these acts, who would want this horrible act attached to them?. If and when they come to you, PLEASE BELIEVE THEM!!! Remain calm as they talk with you; if they believe you to be upset they blame themselves and may never speak about it again.
BE PART OF THE GENERATION THAT IS MAKING THE CHOICE AND SHOUTING OUT TO ALL - NO MORE!!!
NO MORE WILL WE TURN AWAY AND PRETEND NOT TO SEE THE DAMAGE LEFT FROM THESE CRIMES OF ABUSE AND FAMILY VIOLENCE!!
NO MORE WILL WE TURN UP THE T.V. AND PRETEND NOT TO HEAR THE SCREAMS OF MERCY!!
NO MORE WILL WE ALLOW THE MOLESTATION, BEATING, RAPE AND MURDER OF OUR CHILDREN!!!
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